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An important tradition symbolic of the vital
place of family in Appalachian life is Decoration Day, usually held
on a Sunday in June. Families gather at rural churches and cemeteries
to honor the memory of deceased family members. A few days earlier,
neighbors and kin gather to mow the cemetery grass, clean the graves,
and prepare flowers. Homes are opened to accommodate family members
returning from far and wide, communal meals are prepared, and folks
gather to make a little music. On Decoration Day, special preaching
and church singing pay homage to the dead and bring families and
communities closer together. The service is followed by "dinner
on the grounds," with large quantities of food cooked by local
community members. Graves are decorated with flowers, visited, and
stories told of humor, love, and remembrance about family members
buried there.
Timing of the event reflects Appalachia's agrarian heritage. Mid-June
was a time when crops were planted and growing, but long before
harvest, mountain weather allowed for outdoor activity and made
travel easier, and flowers were in bloom for decorating graves.
It was a betwixt and between time when mountain folk could reflect
on their shared family and community heritage. Decoration Day is
also a ritual for healing rifts and wounds among living family members.
For all families, Decoration Day is a time and place for reconnecting
kinship networks and remembering core family values. The tradition
of Decoration Day in Appalachia is an old one, but it is a living
tradition.
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